It’s the end of another year and of course this is a time that many of us reflect and think on the things that we did or did not do and determine our next step forward. So, I found myself looking back over my life and I found that from the perspective of being a sibling, there are 3 things in my life that I would have done differently.
Back in high school, I excelled in the science subjects. Based on this fact alone, I went on to university to pursue…you guessed it…the sciences. At this point, I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life…didn’t have a “passion” or “purpose”. If this describes you, know that there is nothing wrong if you want to do a degree in Chemistry, Biology, etc. Just ask yourself what will you be able to do with this degree once you have it. We have to remember that every country is different, thus a science degree will help one excel in Country A, while the same degree will make you homeless and hungry in Country B. Also, just because I did well in the sciences, does not mean I had to do a degree in natural sciences. I could have and honestly believe to this day that I should have pursed engineering, e.g. chemical engineering. In my country, Engineers are highly sought after and are more likely to climb the ranks in a company than a person with a natural science degree. These are the things one has to look at when entering college. What is the best degree to ensure that you maximize your earning potential?
Because the truth is, when you become a caregiver for your sibling, it is costly. Any type of therapy, eyeglasses, doctor visits, somewhere to live, food, etc. all come at a cost. It is hard enough trying to cover my own bills much less to add another person to that equation. Looking back, I strongly believe that siblings who are not sure of their “passion” or “purpose” should choose the degree that will position them for the best paying job/career. As life goes on you will find your “passion” but until then, make as much money as you can and save towards your passion…because when you find it, you will need money to make that career change.
As the years went by, I realized that working “9 to 5” was definitely not for me. This thing about working 40 hours a week (minimum) for the rest of my life, building someone else’s dream is just not attractive and can be quite frustrating and depressing. I later realized that what I really wanted was to be an entrepreneur and obtain financial freedom. I wish I was exposed to entrepreneurship when I was young and realized that this was actually an opportunity instead of just thinking that all we should aim to be are doctors and lawyers. Being able to have my own businesses and having multiple streams of income will erase the daily worry that I have about taking care of myself and my sister. I will actually have time to spend with my sister and make good memories.
Lately, what I have learnt is that whatever you want to do/achieve…if you want to be an employee, if you want to be an entrepreneur…whatever the case, your body needs to be able to keep up with your mind (all the plans/goals/dreams that you have). So, I wish I had paid keen attention to ensuring that I took care of my health…physical and mental. In order to help our siblings, we must be our best self. We must take care of ourselves so that we can take care of them.
As we go into 2019, what are some things that you wish you had done differently and what steps do you plan to take in the new year? Let’s talk about them and I wish you all the best for 2019…may your dreams for you and your family come true!